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In my first 11 days on the site, eight of my matches were Asian and three were South Asian. The Kang sisters — Arum, Dawoon and Soo — started Coffee Meets Bagel almost a year ago in New York, aiming to attract busy young professionals who are looking for something in between a hook-up dtaing a serious relationship and don't want to invest time weeding out messages from creeps.
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Before starting their business, the diligent Kang sisters interviewed executives from eHarmony, OkCupid and several smaller, failed dating sites. Arum, the CEO, has an MBA from Harvard, and Dawoon, the COO, has one from Stanford. They read through bagek of the research about online dating. And they tweaked an existing marketing algorithm to connect users who have Facebook friends in common. At least that's how the site markets itself: Except I've been on the site for almost three months, and fewer than a third of my matches and I have had friends in common.
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The school with the second highest number of graduates on the site is Columbia University, followed by the University of Pennsylvania and Harvard. NYU is number one. Only 17 percent of the site's 60, or so users datnig not white, Jewish or Asian. OkCupid's fascinating and now-defunct research blog found in mmeets more white women than any other demographic — 54 percent — responded "yes" to the question of whether they strongly preferred to date someone of their own racial background.
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This was starting to feel like the prisoner's dilemma, so I called a friend eite mine who understands game theory and works in finance. She informed me that I was indeed feeling a game theory pressure to move towards what's called a " Nash equilibrium " since I was being forced to consider the preferences of all of the other "players" in this "game" — ie, the other white women on the site, who influence my matches. You see, if most other white women limit their matches to revieew men, there are very few white female matches for the many Asian men who include white women in their preferences.
And coffeee I was one of those few white women who allowed Asian men, I got tons of Asian men as matches. In order to have the possibility of connecting with anyone else, I had to give up my ability to see any Asians, just as the rest of these narrow-minded "players" had. Choosing "not-Asians" was the Nash Cpffee, and I was couldn't stop myself from heading there! Finally, I deselected "Asian" in my preferences. It's not like I'm being racist, I told myself.
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There was the guy who made me so uncomfortable at lunch that I made an excuse after less than an hour and cffee out without daying my parking.